When people relapse after a period of being sober it is greatly disheartening.
Individuals who spontaneously pick up are able to avoid calamity by discontinuing immediately It is a slip not a relapse.
Many people, unfortunately, don't stop themselves and find themselves deep in the addiction. The chance to be sober again will never come for many. It is very important that extreme effort is made to elude relapse since it can be deadly to many. Relapses however don't just happen without cause. On the contrary, it will not be difficult to spot the warning signs about the impending disaster. A person might be able to avoid catastrophe if he or she is able to recognize these revealing signs.
When a person is about to relapse, some of the signs may include: Isolation: this is the stage when the individual begins to stay away from other people.
The person may start lying or start to keep secrets. People who attend meeting of support groups, and AA will discontinue the practice without warning.
The feeling of being stuck in recovery: frustrations overcome people when they begin to realise that they are not making any progress during the recovery.
Less Recovery Effort: The person will seem to have less interest in the recovery process and won't do the things they used to in order to stay sober.
Anger and resentment: The individuals blame those around them as their life in recovery is not turning out as they expected. These feelings provide people the excuses they need to return to alcohol or drugs.
Denial of problems: it is quite common for people in recovery to deny that they are having problems with life away from the addiction. They can deceive others but self-deception is only temporary. An obstacle to the recovery can also be the problems that are not dealt with.
Negativity: This is when the person takes an excessively grim view of their life after treatment. This may mean that they are trying to justify an impending relapse.
Overconfidence: A well known saying should always be in your mind that the pride comes before fall. Individuals who are overconfident about the recovery could be setting themselves up for disaster. Complacency can be caused due to this and people can return to the midst of addiction before they even understand what has happened. Recovery is a serious business, and people are considered most vulnerable when they don't think about the business of recovery similarly.
Feeling overwhelmed: This is usually a sign of forthcoming relapse. A person can't think rationally if they feel overpowered. They can easily turn back to drugs or alcohol to try to get away from the pain.
Remembering the good old days: An individual begins to reminisce on their addiction days. Longing for those times might even occur. There are times when memory can trick you into thinking that the past was better than it really was. Even the memory of trying their best to get away from the addiction maybe lost.
New Addictions: The person may start to engage in other unhealthy behaviours in an attempt to avoid their hardships. Exercising excessively or becoming obsessed with their job might be involved in it. Another mind-changing substance might be the choice of some people.
Acting like a dry drunk: This means that individuals continue behaving like they did when they abused drugs or alcohol although they don't. The commitment to sobriety of such individuals is weak thus a relapse can easily occur.
Spending time with old friends: it can become highly dangerous if the individual drifts back to spend time with your previous drinking or drug using partners. Relapse due to peer pressure occurs when people have a weak recovery.
Frequenting Former Hangouts: If you have a good reason to be there, there is no problem for a person who's well rooted in the recovery to got to a bar. If, however, people go to these drinking places so they can get indirect satisfaction from looking at other people drinking, then it can be very dangerous. Going to these places out of loneliness is also a terrible idea. That if you sit in a barber shop long enough, you will get your haircut is a common saying in AA and with good reason.
Keeping a tab on the warning signs of a return to addiction can be understood well enough if the context of the relapse process is considered.
This is a series of steps, which describe the happenings among people before the relapse. Long before the person ever has a drink, the relapse process will start in the mind of the recovering alcoholic. Every individual is not likely to experience these precise steps, but it often provides useful description of the manner in which things can be expected to happen. Each of the steps is a part of the relapse process:
the individual stops making progress during the recovery.
This occurs because they are confronted with a problem they don't want to deal with, or are unable to cope with. The person will do their best not to pay mind to the signs that they are not moving forward. Life gets uncomfortable due to the lack of progress. In order to deal with this, the individual turns to maladaptive coping techniques. People may possibly be able to bury their internal discomfort, but it will continue to bubble away unnoticed.
These problems will finally become visible thanks to a triggering event. Since these issues have been building up for a long time, a simple argument could result in an overreaction even if the argument is over something trivial. The individual will start to feel growing emotional havoc. This is the kind of discomposure a person would experience by sprawling into substance abuse. They may feel particularly vulnerable to these emotions as they are sober now. Thinking rationally and going on with a regular life becomes much more difficult because of this internal discomfort.
The emotional unrest will become obvious to other people. The person might then become irritated or mad. They may act in an inconsistent way. The things the person used to do to stay sober will no longer matter to the person at this point.
During this time, the feeling of being overwhelmed and going out of control was also be felt by the individual. Thinking about how substance abuse helped them to get away from life troubles is what they often do now. The drive to remain sober is now no longer sufficient enough to stop them from relapsing.
The following steps should be taken as action against a forthcoming relapse if warning signs are spotted:
Focus on the reasons why they get rid of their addiction as well as their aspirations and expectations in recovery. Now might be a great time to go back and read your recovery diary if you have been writing one. Sobriety has to be made the most important thing in life. Until you feel a little more grounded in the recovery process, you should make everything else a secondary consideration. Don't make any big changes or take on new responsibilities at this point in time.
Sharing relapse fears with someone that will listen and give a solid advice is very important for these individuals. If the individual belongs to a 12 step group, their sponsor will be the appropriate authority whom they should be turning to. People who have access to a therapist are advised to contact him or her immediately. There may be somebody whom people can contact if they have recently left rehab. It is important to the individual to avoid isolation by having a discussion with a helpful member. Increasing the regularity of attendance during this vulnerable time is advised to people who belong to a fellowship. Share the problems you've been facing with other people during the meetings.
If you have any friends with whom you used to drink or use drugs, make an effort to stay away from them. Visiting the places where alcohol is served is also not a good idea for recovering alcoholics if they are feeling vulnerable. Going sideways from their road to recovery is the cause of relapsing for many people. They must retrace their steps to see where this occurred. A therapist or an individual who is highly reputable in their own recovery can be immensely beneficial to conduct this investigation with. This can be a great time to read motivational recovery material. It can provide people who need the motivation to remain sober. People can also make use of the online addiction recovery resources. Look out addiction helplines that are available any time of the day or night.
People need to seriously think about using one of these help lines if they are feeling susceptible to relapse.